Every month I host a Q&A for my newsletter and consistently get questions about food. As I dig into those messages, I notice many of you are asking something deeper: how to indulge without guilt, what to do after overindulging, and how to feel confident around food. With the holidays in full swing, I wanted to address these topics in one post so you can enjoy gatherings and meals with more ease all season long—and year-round.
You are not alone. Food-related anxiety is something many of us face. If you could see how often this topic comes up in my Q&A’s, you’d know it’s a shared experience. Even though food-fear is common, it can still feel isolating because we rarely talk about it out loud. I want to remind you that we’re in this together.
Here are answers to some of the questions I hear most often:
Do I ever indulge? Yes. I value a balanced, nutrient-dense routine, but I also enjoy treats. Most nights I have something sweet or fresh organic fruit during the day, and I love crunchy snacks like chips or crackers. I usually choose better alternatives—avocado oil chips, for example—but I don’t stress about enjoying them. It took time and practice to build this relaxed mindset around balance, and that’s why I love sharing healthier takes on favorite desserts, like making homemade Twix bars. Cooking treats yourself helps you know what’s in them instead of relying on packaged options.
Do I feel guilty for indulging? I try not to. Of course there are days with negative body-image thoughts or worry about food, but I don’t let those feelings dominate. On birthdays, holidays, and special events, I pick a few things to savor and then rejoin the people and activities I’m there to enjoy. Focusing on connection rather than calories makes celebrations feel joyful. When negative thoughts arise, acknowledge them and move on—do something that lifts you, whether that’s a quick workout, wearing your favorite outfit, calling a friend, or cooking a nourishing meal. And if you do overindulge, it’s okay. One meal, one day, or even one week won’t erase your progress. Aim to make your next meal balanced and nourishing.
What do I do to recover from overindulging? My simple approach: nothing drastic. I believe in moderation and forgiving myself quickly. Instead of swinging to extremes—like restricting food or over-exercising—I return to normal routines. Staying close to moderation prevents that cycle of overeating followed by punishment. If you know a big event is coming with lots of tempting foods, consider eating a small nourishing meal beforehand or a snack with protein and healthy fat so you’re satiated. It’s the same principle as not grocery shopping when you’re starving.
One more thought: it helps to step back from food-fear and consider how much mental energy we spend worrying about every choice. It’s unfortunate that many women feel consumed by these concerns, but I’m grateful for the supportive community we’ve built—people who want to be healthy in every way, including mentally. That means working out, choosing nutrient-dense foods, and also allowing ourselves to enjoy food freely and forgive ourselves when we overdo it. Live your life and enjoy it.
I truly appreciate this community—it’s a special place to connect with like-minded people. Share in the comments what you’re looking forward to this holiday season or any tips you have for moving past food-fear. Love you all xx